Tips for proper mental rest which worked for me when I was approaching burnout (share these tips with your coaching clients)
Hello friends! Let’s talk about how to have proper mental rest without feeling guilty.
Hi! I’m Shikah, I’m a former counsellor and I create done-for-you lead magnets and workbooks for coaches.
In this video, I share advice and tips for proper mental rest which worked for me when I was on the verge of burnout two weeks ago. You can modify and share these tips with your clients or in your content. You can also apply these tips for yourself if you feel yourself reaching burnout.
Let’s get to the topic. Why did I choose ‘mental’ rest instead of physical rest or emotional rest? Well, you’ll realise that when your mind is racing, thinking, brainstorming during your rest days, the ‘off’ day feels completely wasted. You end up feeling just as confused, exhausted, foggy brained and as restless as when you are having a stressful day. We have to somehow slow down our racing minds and calm them before we can enjoy the sweet experience of having a true day off.
The first tip I have is to consume content which is a 180-degree turn from your work or business.
If you are a coach, don’t watch or read self-improvement videos and books on your rest days. For example, when I was approaching burnout two weeks ago, I binge-watched house decorating videos, makeup tutorials, hairstyle tutorials, esoteric content such as psychic readings,videos on how to follow your intuition. Really out there stuff. I also read fiction books, romantic comedy books - basically books I rarely have the time to read on most days. The content I consumed during my ‘healing from burnout days’ was 100% not related to my business at all. Like I mentioned, I create done-for-you materials for coaches, so I avoid all forms of personal development content on my day off. This tip works for your clients if they need a concrete, tangible, logical suggestion on how to have proper mental rest on their days off.
Another tip I have is to indulge and rest for a few days if you need to.
Many of us will naively think that having just one day off is enough to recover from the start of burnout. But from my experience, at least for myself, I will need at least 2 days to recover from my burnout and get motivated to work again. I am lucky in that sense because 2 or 3 days of proper mental rest is sufficient for me to get excited about my business again. I have heard of business owners who need months of recovery before they can touch their laptops again. You have to know your nervous system and your mental health intimately and come face to face with how your mind and body works. Work with your mind and body instead of against it. Does that mean you will feel frustrated that you may need one week of rest instead of just one day? Maybe you will. However, working with your body will ensure a speedier recovery.
At this point in the video you may be wondering how you can help your clients identify if they are stressed out and lacking self-care.
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Now with that out of the way, let’s move onto the next tip on how to have proper mental rest.
The next tip I have for you to have proper mental rest is to spend time ‘being’ instead of ‘doing’.
What does that mean? It just means being present in the moment, present in your body, present with your thoughts and present with your emotions. Sounds like a lot to do, yes? Actually, being present recharges your energy like no other.
I did a mistake when I was ‘resting’ for my burnout. I decided to escape my ruminating and racing thoughts by doing tasks and chores. Instead of accepting that my mind was racing and actively looking for activities which calm my nervous system, I started doing chores. On my ‘rest’ day, I did the laundry, baked brownies, I cooked dinner mopped the house, vacuumed the floors, I created Pinterest pins for my business because it is a creative and so-called relaxing thing to do.
It may be relaxing when I am not at the edge of burnout, but doing anything remotely work-related is not relaxing at all. Anyway, my reasoning for doing tasks on my rest day was : “At least I get to escape my racing thoughts by doing things and being productive today.” It was a big mistake. The next day, I experienced burnout. Thankfully, it took just a couple of days to recover from that burnout, but I learned my lesson. Spend more time being with yourself instead of escaping yourself when you are burnt out or stressed out.
You can experience ‘being’ with activities which, number one : stop your racing thoughts and number two, which make you feel positive emotions. Some examples are meditation, working out, running, hiking, creating something with your hands, cooking, visualising, reconnecting with your hobby which is not tech-related hopefully.
Let me know activities which can slow down racing thoughts in the comments below.
Another tip to have proper mental rest is to add joy back into your life.
In our busy-ness with running a business, or if your clients have demanding 9-6 jobs, it is easy to ignore and forget joy. Joy even seems like an indulgence and not a need for some people. Well, human beings need joy in our lives. We do not come into this world to suffer, sacrifice or lead joyless lives. There is no point in living life like that. Anyway, I don’t have to even elaborate much about the importance of doing activities which trigger joy in you. It can be as ‘indulgent’ as spending time alone with a good book in a cafe or binge-listening your favourite podcast episodes, dancing or listening to your favourite music, eating your favourite food, exploring your city as though you are a tourist, creating art, visualising your dream reality.
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Thank you and see you in the next episode Goodbye.
