What inspired me to create this Set Healthy Boundaries Today printable?
Background story
I will share one incident where an acquaintance wanted to meet me for dinner.
I was agreeable to it, at first.
However, she set her rules: “I can meet only tomorrow at 8pm and I will only be free for 30 minutes. We are going to meet at ABC Mall and eat at XYZ restaurant.”
I was appalled! Isn’t this a friendly catch-up dinner?
I was not in the mood to go out the following day. Neither do I like eating at XYZ restaurant.
And no way am I going to gobble up food and chat for 30 minutes and run off.
So I texted back a ‘No’ and a diplomatic sentence. ;)
It felt good, actually.
When someone headbutts our boundaries, we may feel angry at first. Having the guts to refuse someone takes a lot of confidence.
I don’t deny that I feel guilty and terrible saying ‘No’ sometimes. (Hello, self esteem!)
However, if the thought of meeting someone fills us with dread or exhaustion, it’s best to shelve the meetup for another day.
My logic is: My friend deserves to chat with a better-mood version of myself. And I need to attend to my exhaustion too.
I hope my Set Healthy Boundaries Today printable will help you pinpoint your boundaries, name the people who push them and outline what you can do about it.
You can download it below. Hope it helps!