How to challenge the fear of failure in your coaching clients

Hello friends! I’m Shikah, I’m a former counsellor and I create done-for-you lead magnets and workbooks for coaches. 

Today, I’m going to share how you can challenge the fear of failure in your coaching clients. Actually, a fear of failure is more common than we think although it is not obvious. Many of us do not like to admit that we have a fear of failure or a fear of making mistakes.

That’s because too many of us have been conditioned that being a grown-up means you have to be fearless and you have to have your life together. Truth is, having a fear of failure, perfectionism and low cofidence are somehow inter-related and these issues are common amongst us.

In this blog post, I will share 4 steps on how you can start to challenge the fear of failure in your coaching clients.

#1. First, get your clients or audience to select a mini goal which they want very badly, but are too scared to take action on.

Examples are starting a YouTube channel, starting a side hustle, speaking up at work, taking up a new project at work or in business, applying for their dream job, publishing an ebook, creating an online course, doing an Instagram ‘live’, vlogging, podcasting. This goal has to be something which they have been wanting to do for a long time but have been procrastinating on.

I’ll share a personal example. One of my ‘mini goals’ is to publish an ebook on Kindle. But I have not entertained this idea much because the thought of having people leaving me a one-star rating or readers brutally dissecting and criticising my work - is too much for me to handle. Hence, I have a fear of failure when it comes to publishing books. This is ironic because I write workbooks and masterclasses for coaches - and I get grateful emails from them often - but I still have a fear of failing when it comes to putting my work out there in the masses. This is one example of how our fears can be irrational and our fears are not necessarily the truth.

If your clients have projects that they are dying to start but have not taken any action yet, you can explore whether they have a fear of failure in this aspect.

#2. The second step is to write down the number one fear that they have when it comes to starting this mini-goal.

It can be a fear of being judged, a fear of potential public embarrassment if they ‘fail’, a fear of disappointing themselves if they could not execute this mini-goal well, a fear of disappointing other people (this is especially relevant if they want to start a coaching business, for example, and have a fear of ‘failing’ to help their clients succeed) or even a fear of having their lifelong dreams crumbling if they ‘fail’.

All these fears are unique and valid to them. They are likely to be very emotionally attached to this mini-goal and associate mistakes with really big negative outcomes. You can explore where this fear comes from. Does it come from low self-worth? Does it come from unrealistically high standards where they expect themselves to get acknowledged or rewarded the first time they start something new?

In my own example, I have a fear of failure when it comes to publishing ebooks on Amazon. My number one specific fear is ‘potential public embarrassment if my ebook flops.’ I am terrified in case my readers find my books unhelpful, ‘basic’ or flawed in any way. However, this is an imagined negative scenario which does not even exist. I don’t want to sound too delusional or too presumptuous, but positive scenarios are also equally possible. In fact, I may even get many fans for my future ebooks - especially if I write my books with the sincere intention of helping people.

If I were to explore my own fears, I know that they stem from my upbringing. I was brought up to believe that my achievements and results were equivalent to my self-worth. That is why failure and mistakes - especially public failures, of course - are terrifying for me. This is something I am constantly working on and being self-employed helps me relax my perfectionism so much. That’s because you practically can’t function as a business owner if you are a perfectionist - it will practically cripple you and stop you from taking any action.

I’ve always believed that one of the fastest ways for personal growth is self-employment - self-employment and parenthood, to be exact - but that’s another topic for another day.

Now before I move on to the next step, if you want a free Challenge your Fear of Failure lead magnet to grow your email list, then make sure you enter your name and email address below.

I have a free 7-page activity which you can share with your audience to help them reduce their fear of failure. Again, make sure to type your name and email address and I’ll send it to your inbox.

Now with that out of the way, let’s move on to the next step on how to challenge the fear of failure in your clients.

#3. The next step I have for you to challenge the fear of failure in your audience is to find evidence that their fear is true.

This might sound counter intuitive at first. However, when we ‘force’ clients or ourselves to find evidence to prove our fears right, we will realise that it is hard to find concrete or convincing evidence to support our own made-up fears.

That is because the fearful, ‘scary’ situation in our minds are completely made-up and do not exist. This step can jolt them into realising how irrational their fears can be. As an example, for myself, I have a fear of potential public embarrassment if my ebook flops on Amazon.

It is actually difficult for me to find evidence to support this. If I force myself to come up with evidence, I will write something like this “I don’t have evidence that my fears are true because this failure has not happened. However, I have observed that people can be truly critical of creators online. I only have to surf forums like Reddit, certain Facebook groups or even read reviews on Amazon to see how critical people can be of writers and any creator who puts their work out there. So my fear of potential public embarrassment is valid.”

This step can be very powerful because it gives someone the realisation that their fears are not as ‘scary’ as they imagine. And in fact, I feel almost silly writing my fear down because my fear seems rather small in comparison with my bigger purpose for writing an ebook. This step can make your clients realise that their purpose of wanting to pursue their mini-goal is more important than their fears of failure and embarassment.

#4. The next step I have to help your clients challenge the fear of failure is to find evidence that their fear is not true.

As you already expect, this step is also important.

I call this step the ‘positive feel-good step’ because the purpose is to motivate them, hype them up and remind them of their strengths. This is where your clients will have to think of their past achievements which are related to their mini-goal, recall testimonials or words of affirmation they’ve received in the past or remind themselves of their true genuine intention for wanting to start that mini-goal in the first place.

Using my own personal example, I will likely write this “My fear of potential public embarassment if my book flops, may not be true because there are many beginner writers who have received praise and testimonials for their first book. I, myself, have received hundreds of testimonials for my done-for-you materials for coaches. Also, I’ve noticed most people are generally kind and appreciative. I have also underestimated my abilties numerous times before - so my fear can be a reflection of me underestimating myself again. At the same time, I don’t have to label myself a ‘failure’ if my book does not do as well as I hope. As long as I write with the intention to help, and there are people who find my book helpful, I can consider my book the result of good, solid effort on my part.”

As you can see from my example, your clients may need to shift their definition of ‘failure’ to reduce their fears around failures, flops and mistakes.

You can continue this 4-step exercise until your clients have broken down and assessed 3 different fears they have regarding the same mini-goal.

Now, if you are someone who’s convinced that you want to coach your clients to overcome their fear of failure, you can check out my done-for-you fear of failure masterclass. You can launch your own masterclass ASAP because I have done 90 slides, a workbook and a script for you already.

Click here if you want to launch a masterclass today and sell it on your website.

Thanks for reading this and take care.

Shikah

Emotional intelligence coaching tool : Free ‘Train your brain to think positive’ coaching mini activity

Transcript

Hi Coaches! Let’s talk about how you can grow your email list without creating a lead magnet all by yourself from scratch.

I have helped thousands of coaches launch their own lead magnets and products.

And today, I’m going to share my free lead magnet - an emotional intelligence coaching tool - which you can use to grow your list.

The free lead magnet I have is called ‘Train your mind to think positive’ Mini-activity. You can download it for free below.

This emotional intelligence coaching tool is 8 pages in length including the cover page and back page.

And the objective is to give your clients a quick mindset transformation from negative to positive.

Giving quick wins is the point for any lead magnet.

I’ve included 3 common challenging scenarios to this 8-page emotional intelligence coaching tool.

Your clients are encouraged to reflect and train their minds to look for the positive lining in all 3 scenarios.

If this is helpful for your business, you can download the 8-page free lead magnet below.

If this free lead magnet helps your business and if it feels aligned to you, you are free to send me a tip of any amount you want.

This will encourage me to create more free coaching tools for your business, using my counselling experience. 🤍

Also, while most coaches can grow their list with my free lead magnets, you can also go one step further and check out my Emotional Intelligence done-for-you workshop which you can record and sell to your audience to make income more passively.

Creating a workshop is time-consuming but once it’s done, you can sell it over and over again on evergreen on your website.

If you want to launch and sell your own emotional intelligence workshop ASAP, you can get this done-for-you workshop and you are ready to go.

Meanwhile, blessings and take care.

Shikah

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How to Create a Self-Care Plan for your Coaching Clients (with Free Self-Care Assessment Template)

If your clients are like most people, they can intuitively sense when their self-care is out of balance, but may not know how to start their self-care habits in an effective manner.

This confusion, coupled with a busy or demanding lifestyle, can equate to them procrastinating any form of self-care until something more dire happens - such as burnout or becoming unwell.

Creating a personalised self-care plan tailored to their needs is the first step they can take to feel empowered, reduce stress and possibly prevent burnout.

If you want a step-by-step outline on how you can create a self-care plan for your coaching clients, you may want to continue reading.

Step 1 : A self-care assessment or self-care audit

This step is crucial because it highlights the specific self-care needs which may have been unintentionally neglected whilst your clients are busy pursuing their goals.

Creating an assessment of any kind can be a daunting task even for experienced coaches as it requires thorough thought and insight.

I have used my insight and experience derived as a former counsellor to help create a 25-question self-care assessment for you.

Use this self-care assessment template during coaching sessions or even as a free opt-in freebie for your coaching blog (to get more subscribers).

Step 2 : Create self-care goals for each self-care category (there are 5 main categories)

Goals should ideally be specific and realistic. After completing this free assessment, you can then nudge your clients to create 3 self-care goals for each of these categories :

• physical self-care

• emotional self-care

• spiritual self-care

• social self-care and

• mental self-care

Step 3 : Create a personalised Self Care Menu

A self-care menu is a fun spin to simply creating a list of their favourite self-care activities.

Your clients’ Self-care Menu can be in the form of a mindmap, a table, a calendar or a simple bullet-point list if they prefer a minimalist style.

This Self-care Menu should ideally include at least 20 activities which offer mental peace, joy, relief or a feeling of expansiveness and gratitude to them.

This Menu should be personalised to their needs and if they need ideas, they can choose to reflect on activities they have done in the past which offer them feelings associated with self-care.

Examples include spending time with supportive people, introspective activities such as journaling, participating in active meditations or going for therapy.

Step 4 : Intentionally schedule activities from the Self Care Menu into a weekly planner

Some of us have the perception that self-care activities do not need to be scheduled. I beg to differ.

When your clients schedule self-care activities into their week, they have a higher chance of committing to them.

This is especially true if they have a demanding career or a fast-paced lifestyle. Their self-care needs may just fall to the wayside in favour of more ‘productive’ work-related activities or they may choose easy, passive activities such as bingeing on a TV series.

You may want to encourage them to schedule self-care activities which actually enrich their lives, bring them joy, energise them mentally and emotionally or activities which create pleasant memories.

Step 5: Helping your clients balance success with self-care

Which self-care needs are your clients likely to neglect when they are experiencing a busy or stressful period in their lives?

You may encourage them to list them down.

For example, they may neglect their sleep, exercise, meditation or hobbies when they are actively pursuing their goals.

You may ask them these questions or even create a worksheet with these questions:

1. “Which self-care needs do you usually neglect when you are busy?”

2. “What does it feel like to neglect these needs?”

3. “What may happen if you choose to continue ignoring this self-care need?”

4. “What is one small action step you can take to pay attention to this self-care need?”

Want to offer and sell a Self Care Masterclass to your coaching clients?

You can choose to conduct a 60-minute masterclass to teach your clients how to create their own self-care plan.

If you want to launch + sell your own 60-minute Create your own Self Care Plan masterclass, you can get this done-for-you masterclass.

I wrote this masterclass using my experience and insight as a former counsellor working in a government ministry.

With 80 fully written, fully-designed slides, a workbook and a fully-done script, you can launch your own masterclass practically overnight (or sooner ;)).

I hope this has been helpful for you in some way.

Take care,

Shikah

How to run a vision board workshop for coaches (with free vision board coaching tool)

“Creating vision boards is such an ‘airy-fairy’ topic,” my brain whispered.

I was scouring the Internet for topics to create my next done-for-you workshop. 

Well, sometimes our thoughts are not facts. 

Because I came across 3 successful coaches who have conducted vision board workshops before. So clearly, vision boards are not airy-fairy after all.

Successful Coach #1 started her 6-figure coaching business holding in-person vision board workshops

Successful Coach #2 has a 7-figure business and launched her own vision board training called Vision Board Alchemy months ago. (just Google for it!)

Successful Coach #3 also started her business with vision board classes (I can’t remember the exact details though)

Well, if these superstar coaches are holding vision board workshops, that means there is a HUGE demand for it.

If you want a shortcut to grow your mailing list, you can download my mini-ebook called “Start creating a vision board today : 4 Must-Have Categories for a vision board which works” and use it as a lead magnet for your coaching website.

Step #1. Have a clear outline for your vision board workshop to organise your thoughts

Creating masterclasses and courses starts with sketching out the outlines and then filling in the details and information.

• How many ‘lessons’ do you wish to have in your vision board workshop?

• Roughly, how many slides do you want to dedicate per lesson?

• Are you going to have a group activity per lesson?

If you are not sure what to include in your vision board workshop, you can use my suggested workshop outline as a reference.

The workshop outline below is from my done-for-you vision board workshop which you can sell to your audience. It has 80 value-packed slides, an accompanying workbook and a script all done for you using my research and counselling experience :)

Suggested Vision Board Workshop outline for you :

1. Introducing yourself as a coach and your background or life experience to build credibility amongst your participants

2. Explaining why we need vision boards and how it helps us to achieve our goals faster

3. Summarising the concepts that you will be teaching in the workshop

4. Lesson 1 : How does a vision board help us create our dream life?

5. Lesson 2 : How to overcome low self-worth and an undeserving mindset so as to set authentic goals

6. Lesson 3 : Inviting and activating an abundance mindset

7. Lesson 4 : Your authentic goals, dreams and desires - 4 essential must-have categories for your vision board

8. Lesson 5 : Creating your own vision board using my 5-Step process

9. Lesson 6 : How to use powerful inspired action to make your vision board goals a reality

10. Recap the concepts you have taught

11. Gracefully promote another program or higher-ticket offer to your audience.

12. End the presentation with asking your participants to leave a review, asking participants to email you with suggestions to improve the workshop, asking them to follow you on your social media or getting them to share their favourite sections of the workshop.

Step #2 : Decide on the 4 (or 5) must-have essential categories for an effective vision board

Every coach has a different opinion on the categories which are needed to create a vision board which works.

Having well-defined categories is very helpful because your clients get to focus on ‘succeeding’ in only the most important aspects of life.

Instead of trying to chase 50 goals on their vision board, having well-defined categories helps them narrow their focus + energy down to working on, say, only 20 of their top most essential goals.

If you want my suggested 4 must-have categories to create an authentic vision board for success, you can download my Canva-editable mini-ebook “Start creating a vision board today : 4 Must-Have Categories for a vision board which works”

As a coach, you can use this mini-ebook as a lead magnet to get more people to sign up for your mailing list.

Just key in your name and I will send this editable mini-ebook to your email address.

Step #3. Address mindset blocks which may prevent your participants from setting exciting goals

Some participants may have low self-worth or a scarcity mindset which hinders them from setting exciting vision board goals.

Setting exciting goals is important. Excitement is a natural motivator which pulls us to work on our goals and visions.

In the done-for-you vision board workshop, I included slides addressing low self-worth issues and mindset issues regarding abundance.

Helping your participants slowly chip away at their low self-worth and lack mindset will excite them to design a life which works for them.

I know it takes months of research, writing and designing to create a high-quality workshop.

That is why I have created a done-for-you Vision Board workshop which you can launch and sell ASAP :)

You will get

• 80 Canva slides full of information which are editable to suit your audience’s needs

• An accompanying workbook which you can brand with your business name and edit in Canva to make it uniquely yours

• A fully-done script to ensure that your vision board workshop runs smoothly

If you have questions for me, you can send me an email at shikah@shikahanuar.com

I hope this blog post has helped you in a small way.

Sincerely and thank you,

Shikah

Confidence coaching technique : How to coach confidence the self-loving way (with free self confidence coaching exercise)

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Today, we'll be discussing 5 self-loving techniques to boost your clients’ confidence levels.

As coaches, it can be tremendously helpful to coach confidence with a more compassionate mindset, and leaving behind the tough love methods of the past.

You can also download a FREE, brandable ‘Self-loving ways to boost your confidence’ mini workbook to use as a free opt-in in your coaching blog and grow your mailing list:

Meanwhile, you can watch the podcast video below or read the modified transcript if you wish.

Thank you for being in my world.

Blessings to you,

Shikah

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  Welcome back to another episode of Mindset with Shikah. I'm Shikah and I create done for you coaching tools using my counselling experience. 

  Today we will be talking about self-loving ways to boost your client’s confidence. 

  For some reason, when I think of ‘building confidence’ or ‘confidence coaching’’, the first thing that pops in my mind are ‘tough love’ methods.

  I grew up hearing words like ‘no pain, no gain’, ‘bulldoze your fear’, ‘push through your fear no matter what’ or other self-punishing ideas like that.

  Well, the good news is, building your clients’ confidence and self-worth does not have to involve punishment, self-sacrifice or tears of some sort.

  That’s why I created this done-for-you self confidence program. I believe that confidence can be coached through more self-compassionate methods. 

  Confidence is such an important aspect of our lives, as it allows us to tackle challenges well, pursue our goals, and embrace our authentic selves.

  And confidence is a skill that can be learnt. If your audience thrives with a self-compassionate approach to boost confidence, you will find this episode helpful.

  I’m going to share a few self-loving coaching methods to boost confidence and ensure your clients feel comfortable in their own skin.

  #1. Self acceptance helps with self-confidence. Acceptance means owning both their positive characteristics and less-than-ideal aspects.

  For example, instead of punishing themselves for not being a ‘hustler’ who works 24/7, your clients can accept that they have a different working style.

  And they can craft schedules which let them thrive within their own working style. Self acceptance, hence, maintains their confidence levels.

  #2. Being grateful actually leads to self confidence

  Low confidence usually crops up when we have a ‘lack’ mindset. Lack of talent, lack of good looks, lack of motivation - you name it.

  If your clients appreciate the talents, skills and experience they have, they can be comfortable in their own skin.

  This does not mean they stay complacent.

  They can be grateful for their current state AND be works-in-progress at the same time :) 

  #3. Being mindful actually helps boost self confidence

  Mindfulness is probably the last thing you think of when you are coaching confidence. But here, we are referring to being mindful of our thoughts.

  Detaching ourselves from our critical thoughts can preserve our self esteem.

  I have an exercise in the done for you self confidence program which can help your clients with this. 

  For example, let’s assume you have a client who has a critical thought similar to this: “I am not good or skilled enough to apply for that job at my dream company.” 

  They can choose to pause and scan to see which thoughts are causing them to feel inadequate. 

  They can then detach themselves from the thought by changing their narrative to : “I am having *the thought* that I am not skilled enough to apply for a job at my dream company.” 

  Being aware that thoughts are not real, helps to prevent dips in confidence.

  #4. Another way to boost confidence in a self loving way is to encourage your clients to set achievable, realistic goals.

  Setting goals that are slightly challenging but achievable is a great way to boost their confidence.

  Start setting small goals and gradually work their way up to bigger goals.

  This is helpful because accomplishing even small achievements can prove to themselves that they are capable of success.

  And this builds their confidence in themselves.

  #5. The next way to coach confidence in a self-loving way is to surround themselves with positive people.

  I know one mindset coach who mentioned that ‘Environment trumps mindset’.

  What he meant was, the influence of people around us can have a stronger impact on us than our own mindset.

  So, the friends we spend time with, have a big impact on our confidence.

  Encourage your clients to surround themselves with people who uplift and support them. 

  We all know building confidence is a lifelong journey. And if you use self-loving methods to boost your clients’ confidence their new found confidence will be strong and last a long time.

  I hope you found this episode helpful.

  Check out the show notes for free lead magnets which you can use in your coaching blog to grow your mailing list. See you in my next episode. Bye.

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Done-for-you coaching program which you can launch to your coaching clients by today.

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