There is a Reason Behind Every ‘Bad’ Behaviour
Labelling our child as a ‘lazy child’, a ‘careless child’ and a ‘troublemaker’ (etc) will reinforce these labels on our child.
Hearing these labels all the time will create a belief in their minds that they are indeed lazy, careless and a troublemaker.
As a result, they will continue to behave that way.
Shift our mindsets to think that there is a reason behind every ‘bad’ behaviour.
Maybe your child wants more attention, wants to get more expressions of love from you – or wants to feel a sense of belonging!
Try Changing Strategies
If we can’t seem to communicate with a loved one – be it a friend, spouse, a family member or our own child, try changing strategies.
(If you a parent, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you have a ‘lousy’ child or that you are a ‘lousy’ parent.)
If talking harshly, nagging, ordering or being too passive doesn’t work, change to a different strategy.
Keep changing strategies till you find one which produces some positive results!
Einstein defines insanity as “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” 🙂
Encouraging Parents Create a World of Difference!
This is a quick tip for parents out there 🙂
Encouraging parents make a world of difference to their kids. 🙂
If your child keeps failing Maths, for example, encourage him or her by saying, “If you work hard, I know you can get B3 for your Maths”, “I believe in you” and “I’m confident you can score better marks in your next test – you can do it.”
Children or teens who have encouraging parents are less likely to get influenced by negative comments made by friends or even teachers.
If we show them that we have faith in them, they are less likely to get affected by comments such as “You have no aptitude in Maths.” (Trust me, my Secondary 3 Maths teacher once told me that! =P)
Sincerely have faith in your children and you will reap the rewards over time.
Winner’s Mindset vs an Underachiever’s Mindset
Whether we are a ‘winner’ or an ‘underachiever’ depends on our actions and the way we think.
‘Winners’ take responsibility for their actions and learn from their mistakes.
‘Underachievers’ tend to give excuses and blame others for their unhappiness.
It’s not easy to have a winner’s mindset (it’s easier to just blame others and complain).
However, don’t be so hard on ourselves – slowly start taking ownership of our actions (which requires us to swallow our pride at times).
Remember – it takes time to change from an ‘underachieving’ mindset to a ‘winner’s’ mindset. 🙂
1 Technique to Feel Better (almost) Instantly
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FU8Nf9WQ7yk
In this video, I'll be sharing 1 technique to feel better (almost) instantly.
Our thoughts influence our feelings.
If we want to feel good, we need empowering thoughts. If we are feeling not-so-great, chances are: we are having self-defeating thoughts. Hope this video helps in some way. 🙂