How rewriting your story and changing your narrative can make you a more productive coach

Today, we're talking about the power of introducing new actions to change our negative ‘stories’ or narratives that hold us back as entrepreneurs.

We’ve all been there - struggling to write emails, social media posts - you name it. If we can introduce new actions into our lives, we can change our narratives very quickly.

Listen or watch my video below to see how I applied this ‘rewriting your story’ technique to become more productive :)

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  Welcome back to another episode of Mindset with Shikah!

  On today's episode, we're diving into the power of introducing new actions to change our negative narratives and stories that hold us back from being more productive.

  I had the inspired action to share this with you as I was designing a people-pleasing workbook and got distracted. 

  If you are wondering what is holding you back from :

  1) Just pushing yourself a bit more and creating 3 Instagram posts instead of just 1 post in one sitting.

  2) Batch writing emails instead of just writing one email at one sitting (who can relate?)

  … you may just need to introduce a new action or a new habit to change your narrative or the not-so-positive story you’ve been telling yourself. 

  (You can also share this technique to overcome negative narratives with your clients. )

  For the longest time, I had the narrative that “I can only write one meaningful email in one sitting.” I know, it’s nothing to be proud of.

  But I yearn to be more productive and challenge myself to write at least 2 meaningful intentional emails in one sitting.

  So I introduced a new habit : I disciplined myself to write TWO meaningful emails in every sitting. 

  Was it painful for the first few times? Yes!

  But did I continue with it because I truly want to change my narrative? Also yes.

  And now writing two juicy emails in one sitting becomes automatic to me.

  My new narrative is now “I can write two meaningful emails in one sitting.” 😂 

  You may ask me: "Shikah, how long did you take to rewrite this narrative?"

  For me, it took maybe 3 to 4 sessions of writing two emails in one sitting for it to be a new narrative and new habit for me.

  Now I have this new narrative, I want to change other small narratives to make myself a little more productive yet remain largely intentional.

  Is there a small narrative that is holding you back from being a bit more productive? Let me know 🙂

Thank you for all that you do, Coaches.

Sincerely,

Shikah

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When your clients have had weak boundaries for too long, asking them to suddenly set boundaries can give them a mild anxiety attack.

“How do I even start?”

“Won’t I be seen as a ‘bad’ person?”

“How would I know if I’m setting healthy boundaries or being selfish?"

The last question is one which many people-pleasers battle the most.

Your audience may suspect that they have people-pleasing issues but may not be sure how to set boundaries without being seen as a ‘cold-hearted, selfish prick.’

In Lesson 3 of my brand new done-for-you Overcome People Masterclass, I shared 10 ways for you to coach your clients to say ‘No’ to unreasonable requests and still remain polite.

But first things first : If your clients are torn as to whether they should say Yes or No to a request, they can use these 9 prompts to point them to the right answer.

“Should I say Yes or No to this request?”

Nine prompts to help your clients decide if they should say Yes or No to a request:

1. Do I have the time to do this?

2. What will I have to give up to do this?

3. Will I feel pressured to get it done?

4. Will I be upset with myself after saying yes?

5. Will I resent the person asking if I say ‘yes’?

6. Will I feel duped, had, or coerced?

7. Why am I agreeing? What do I gain from saying ‘yes’? What do I lose if I say ‘yes’?

8. How will I feel as I’m doing this task if I say ‘yes’? Will I feel resentful?

9. If I am a fully confident version of myself, will I still say ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ to this request?

So, what can you do next? 

Record a quick video and share the 9 prompts in your Instagram reels, get some views + help the people-pleasers out there :)

Of course, the best approach is to at least have a 60-minute Zoom masterclass to coach your audience to kick off their people pleasing habits.

If creating a masterclass seems like too much of a headache for you (I feel your pain!)  you can get my done-for-you Overcome People Pleasing masterclass where the slides, workbook and even script are already done for you :) 

So, how will you share the 9 boundary-setting prompts with your audience today? :)

Thank you for all that you do, Coaches.

Sincerely,

Shikah

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✨NEW FOR YOU : Done-for-you Overcome People-pleasing Masterclass

Here’s what you’ll get with this done-for-you masterclass:

• You get 80 well-thought-out Canva slides which I’ve created with my counselling experience, sharp observation and research. I’ve also personally created exercises which work best in a masterclass setting

• You get an accompanying workbook so that your audience remembers the concepts clearly + solidifying your stand as a genuine, effective coach.

• You will get a FULL written script so you will be a smooth presenter during the masterclass.

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Are you a people-pleasing coach or business owner?

Listen to this blog post:

Do you feel obliged to say ‘yes’ to every discount request from your audience? 😄

I was there when I was new in my business.

If you had asked me for discounts back then, you are lucky because I almost always gave away 20% discounts to people who asked for it ;)

I rarely do that anymore, though.

As the years pass, you just become comfortable with your work, your prices and you can politely say ‘no’ to price discount requests which do not feel aligned and not over worry about your income. 

If you are curious to see if you are a people-pleasing business owner, you can listen to my new podcast episode.

It’s ok if you can identify with the 4 signs I talked about.

We are at different stages of life and some of us can overcome fear in a snap, whereas some of us need mindset work for that.

I will also introduce a simple exercise and one powerful word you can use to rewrite your people-pleasing beliefs.

If you want to see the video version which I recorded at my dining table with no fancy setup whatsoever, you can watch the video version here. 😄

That’s all for today.

Take care, blessings and may you enjoy abundance today.

Shikah

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FREE creative goal setting coaching tool to help your clients set aligned and achievable goals

For goals to actually work, they have to be aligned with your clients’ personal values and conjure up excitement within them.

Because of that, I have created a goal-setting model which helps your clients set goals which are:

1. Super specific

2. Positive oriented

3. Aligned with their personal values

You can download this free goal-setting coaching tool below and use it as a lead magnet to get more subscribers. You can even use this coaching tool during your 1-1 or group coaching sessions.

I call this model the SPADE goal-setting coaching technique.

• Stands for ‘set specific goals’.

• P is for 'positive oriented’. You may want to encourage your clients to set goals which focus on going somewhere positive. For example, instead of setting goals to avoid ‘being broke’, your clients can be encouraged to set goals to ‘make more income and enjoy more freedom’. Can you feel the difference in energy in both goals? :)

• A is for ‘aligned with your values’

• D is for ‘divide your goals into bite-sized daily actions’. Your clients’ goals can be divided into small daily habits which bring them closer to those goals

• E is for ‘experience your goals with your senses’. Visualisation helps to make your clients’ goals seem real, believable and energetically attract them into their reality

I’ve created this technique with the aim in mind to ensure that the goals set by your clients are aligned and achievable for them.

You can get more goal setting coaching techniques in my brandable, done-for-you goals achieving masterclass.

You may want to create a course or masterclass in future but I know that coaches can get too busy with client work.

That’s where this done-for-you masterclass can help!

This done-for-you masterclass has

• 73 slides

• a full script

• a transcript

• and an accompanying workbook.

Curious? You can see all the 73 slides here:

I hope my offering helps you save time, make more income as a coach and create a positive difference out there.

Sincerely,

Shikah

Coaches, create your own 'perfect' day with these 5 questions

What does a ‘perfect’ day look like for you? 

Maybe you like to start your day getting spiritual and meditative. Or you may like getting active and going for a run.

I believe it’s helpful to have a rough outline of what our perfect day looks like :)

So that we can align every day to match our vision of a perfect day as much as possible.

This gives us some control over our days and our lives. 

And focusing on what we can control is one way to drastically prevent feelings of anxiety and stress. 

This is what you can teach and share with your audience using this done-for-you masterclass which you can launch ASAP.

90 slides, a script and accompanying workbook all done for you.

Here are 5 questions you can reflect on, if you wish to draft your own version of a ‘perfect’ day. 

1. On your perfect day, how would you start your day?

2. What will you accomplish?

3. How would you feel throughout the day?

4. What is ONE activity you can do every day to move your day closer to being ‘perfect’?

5. On your perfect day, how would you end your day?

I like questions 1 and 5, because starting and ending our days on a good note are crucial to be at our peak performance.

You can share this concept with your audience in-depth with materials from my done-for-you masterclass :)

You can repurpose this masterclass as

• Content for group coaching

• Content for your paid membership

• Content for 1-1 coaching

I hope this has been helpful for you!

Let me know if you have questions.

Blessings always and take care,

Shikah

Launch your own masterclass with ease

I’ve written this done-for-you masterclass which has 90 slides, a workbook and script all ready for you :)

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