A simple coaching exercise for anxiety
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It all started with listening to a manifestation guru’s podcast. (I love these, but I’m sure some of you are rolling your eyes 😄)
She mentioned that one everyday method to stave off anxiety is to deliberately avoid watching - or scrolling - the news.
This is a tad controversial, of course.
The news , she explained, focuses too much on what is wrong with this world.
Most of the things we see or listen to in the news is something which ignites fear, anxiety and suspicion in us.
There are also many beautiful and kind actions going on around us all the time, but the news is not the place for that ;).
Hence, if you are a sensitive person, you may feel less anxiety and worry if you reduce your consumption of mainstream news.
This reminds me of a drawing anxiety exercise which I have in my done-for-you Overcome Anxiety workbook.
Why drawing? You may ask. Well, drawing is a more relaxing way to do coaching exercises.
Plus, it’s fun and brings out the child in us.
I wrote this workbook a few years back, and you can use the exercises in this anxiety workbook as coaching exercises for your group coaching, 1-1 sessions or even sell it on your website.
Anxiety drawing exercise for clarity
Step 1 : Draw 3 tasks, people or situations which give you anxiety on a daily basis.
Step 2 : Next, you can arrange the 3 situations + tasks in order of which makes you anxious the most.
Most anxious :
Moderately anxious :
Least anxious :
Step 3 : What has worked in the past to reduce your anxiety for these 3 situations? Draw them out.
This exercise gives instant clarity to the root cause of your client’s everyday anxiety.
And reminds them to take action on what has worked in the past to reduce it.
This ready-done anxiety workbook has been quietly popular with coaches, I noticed.
You can use it during your group coaching sessions or even as a lead magnet to grow your email list.
Will you be trying this anxiety drawing exercise on yourself today?
Let me know if you are ;)
Shikah
Two ways to face business mistakes and ‘failure’
I’m sharing two paths you can choose to handle business mistakes in a relatively healthier way.
In an email to my 8000-strong subscribers last week, I shared a new podcast ep where I discussed two paths you can choose when facing ‘failure’ in your business.
Since we pretty much can’t run away from mistakes as business owners, we can learn to handle them in a healthy way instead of letting ourselves go through the downward spiral of low self-worth and depressed-like feelings.
There are many ways we can face ‘failure’, but I am sharing two paths today.
Path 1:
If you have a ‘fighter’ personality, you may like Path 1 : which is to fight the failure aggressively and turn it into a success.
You will take massive action such as hiring new people, creating new funnels, testing new products - sometimes all at once.
Path 2:
If you are a peace-loving business owner, you may lean into Path 2 : which involves accepting failure as part of the business journey.
This also means: you are in no rush to ‘fix’ the failure and you are at peace with different phases of your business. You will ‘go with the flow’ and allow your intuition to lead the way.
So… are you more likely to choose Path 1 or Path 2?
Personally, I choose Path 2 because I value mental peace and inner peace.
If you value achievements and speed, you may prefer Path 1.
One path is not better than the other.
I would like to assure you that both paths are valid and helpful to manage business mistakes and failure in a healthier way.
Do you have your own preferred way of handling ‘failure’ in business?
If I were to create more videos and podcast episodes surrouding the mindset aspect of running a business, what topics would you like me to discuss?
You can leave a comment below or email me at shikah@shikahanuar.com
Take care,
Shikah
Confidence coaching technique : How to coach confidence the self-loving way (with free self confidence coaching exercise)
Today, we'll be discussing 5 self-loving ways to boost your clients' confidence. As coaches, it can be tremendously helpful for you to coach confidence to your clients with a more compassionate mindset, and leaving behind the tough love methods of the past :)
Today, we'll be discussing 5 self-loving techniques to boost your clients’ confidence levels.
As coaches, it can be tremendously helpful to coach confidence with a more compassionate mindset, and leaving behind the tough love methods of the past.
You can also download a FREE, brandable ‘Self-loving ways to boost your confidence’ mini workbook to use as a free opt-in in your coaching blog and grow your mailing list:
Meanwhile, you can watch the podcast video below or read the modified transcript if you wish.
Thank you for being in my world.
Blessings to you,
Shikah
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Welcome back to another episode of Mindset with Shikah. I'm Shikah and I create done for you coaching tools using my counselling experience.
Today we will be talking about self-loving ways to boost your client’s confidence.
For some reason, when I think of ‘building confidence’ or ‘confidence coaching’’, the first thing that pops in my mind are ‘tough love’ methods.
I grew up hearing words like ‘no pain, no gain’, ‘bulldoze your fear’, ‘push through your fear no matter what’ or other self-punishing ideas like that.
Well, the good news is, building your clients’ confidence and self-worth does not have to involve punishment, self-sacrifice or tears of some sort.
That’s why I created this done-for-you self confidence program. I believe that confidence can be coached through more self-compassionate methods.
Confidence is such an important aspect of our lives, as it allows us to tackle challenges well, pursue our goals, and embrace our authentic selves.
And confidence is a skill that can be learnt. If your audience thrives with a self-compassionate approach to boost confidence, you will find this episode helpful.
I’m going to share a few self-loving coaching methods to boost confidence and ensure your clients feel comfortable in their own skin.
#1. Self acceptance helps with self-confidence. Acceptance means owning both their positive characteristics and less-than-ideal aspects.
For example, instead of punishing themselves for not being a ‘hustler’ who works 24/7, your clients can accept that they have a different working style.
And they can craft schedules which let them thrive within their own working style. Self acceptance, hence, maintains their confidence levels.
#2. Being grateful actually leads to self confidence
Low confidence usually crops up when we have a ‘lack’ mindset. Lack of talent, lack of good looks, lack of motivation - you name it.
If your clients appreciate the talents, skills and experience they have, they can be comfortable in their own skin.
This does not mean they stay complacent.
They can be grateful for their current state AND be works-in-progress at the same time :)
#3. Being mindful actually helps boost self confidence
Mindfulness is probably the last thing you think of when you are coaching confidence. But here, we are referring to being mindful of our thoughts.
Detaching ourselves from our critical thoughts can preserve our self esteem.
I have an exercise in the done for you self confidence program which can help your clients with this.
For example, let’s assume you have a client who has a critical thought similar to this: “I am not good or skilled enough to apply for that job at my dream company.”
They can choose to pause and scan to see which thoughts are causing them to feel inadequate.
They can then detach themselves from the thought by changing their narrative to : “I am having *the thought* that I am not skilled enough to apply for a job at my dream company.”
Being aware that thoughts are not real, helps to prevent dips in confidence.
#4. Another way to boost confidence in a self loving way is to encourage your clients to set achievable, realistic goals.
Setting goals that are slightly challenging but achievable is a great way to boost their confidence.
Start setting small goals and gradually work their way up to bigger goals.
This is helpful because accomplishing even small achievements can prove to themselves that they are capable of success.
And this builds their confidence in themselves.
#5. The next way to coach confidence in a self-loving way is to surround themselves with positive people.
I know one mindset coach who mentioned that ‘Environment trumps mindset’.
What he meant was, the influence of people around us can have a stronger impact on us than our own mindset.
So, the friends we spend time with, have a big impact on our confidence.
Encourage your clients to surround themselves with people who uplift and support them.
We all know building confidence is a lifelong journey. And if you use self-loving methods to boost your clients’ confidence their new found confidence will be strong and last a long time.
I hope you found this episode helpful.
Check out the show notes for free lead magnets which you can use in your coaching blog to grow your mailing list. See you in my next episode. Bye.
Launch your own signature program finally.
Program text, editable workbook, done for you sales page, opt-in freebie and email sales funnel all done for you.
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Life purpose coaching exercise : Help clients uncover their basic life purpose and boost confidence
In this podcast episode, I’ll be sharing a 4-step Life Purpose Formula which helps your clients uncover their basic life purpose. I’ve included the transcript below for your convenience!
Grow your mailing list by helping your coaching audience discover their unique talents with this free coaching tool :
In this podcast episode, I’ll be sharing a 4-step Life Purpose Formula which helps your clients uncover their basic life purpose.
I’ve included the transcript below for your convenience!
This Life Purpose Formula is part of my done-for-you self care guided workbook.
With this done-for-you workbook, you can launch your own self-care workbook and sell it in your coaching blog.
You can also use this self-care workbook as a bonus for your courses or even as a tripwire to have more ‘qualified’ potential clients in your mailing list :)
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Welcome back to another episode of Mindset with Shikah where I share strategies and mindset skills to motivate you in your coaching business.
Today we have a very interesting and thought-provoking topic to explore. I will share with you a 4-step method to help your clients uncover their basic life purpose.
You can share this method with your audience, with your coaching clients in your Instagram reels, in your captions, your instagram ‘lives’ you name it.
So let's dive right in. Many people would love to find out what their purpose in life is. Because knowing our basic life purpose means having a clear sense of what gives our lives meaning and direction.
Our life purpose is what drives our actions and determines the decisions we make.
So when your clients make career or business decisions with their life purpose in mind, they will experience more joy and satisfaction.
In my opinion, discovering our life purpose is an ongoing journey because our purpose may change at different stages of our lives.
As we experience more ups and downs in life, as we have more self-awareness, as we change our character and preferences as human beings, our purpose changes as well.
To make it simple, your clients’ basic life purpose is closely tied to their joy. And also closely tied to their natural talents. What activities bring them pure joy? Put them in the flow? Makes them feel alive? Make them energised? What activities come so easily to them, which others struggle with?
These are the questions your clients can reflect on, to find their basic life purpose.
So, last week, I was scrolling through my phone and looking at a done-for-you self care workbook which I have written in the past.
And this 4 step Life Purpose Formula exercise jumped out at me.
You can share this 4 step Life Purpose Formula with your clients.
Step 1: What are the 2 personal qualities they like about themselves? (for example, maybe they are empathetic, a good motivator)
Step 2 : What activities do they enjoy which allow them to express the 2 qualities above? (maybe they like to write uplifting content and create videos.)
Step 3 : In their viewpoint, what do they hope people have more / less of? (eg : I hope people will realise the value of mindfulness and self-growth)
Step 4 : String their answers to the 3 questions above into Your Life Purpose sentence: (For this example, “My life purpose is to engage my empathetic nature and being a good motivator to write uplifting content and create videos to help people realise the value of mindfulness and self-growth.”)
You can help your clients uncover their basic life purpose with this formula.
If you want to read through the steps again, you can go to my blog post - which is in the description box.
And as a gift for you, you can also download a free coaching tool called Discover Your Unique Gifts and Talents’ which you can use as a free opt-in in your coaching blog to grow your subscribers. The link is also in my description box.
That’s all for today. I’ll see you in my next episode. Bye.
Thank you for being in my world, Coaches.
If you want to chat with me about this episode, you can send me an email at shikah@shikahanuar.com :)
Sincerely and love,
Shikah
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How to coach boundary setting : ‘How to say No without hurting someone’s feelings’
Today, we dive into the topic of people-pleasing and how it can be detrimental to our well-being. I’ll share five ways for your people-pleasing audience to say No politely and without hurting someone else’s feelings.
Today, we dive into the topic of people-pleasing and how it can be detrimental to our well-being.
I shared five ways for your people-pleasing audience to say No politely and without hurting someone’s feelings.
I understand that saying a flat no can be difficult for recovering people-pleasers, so I’m providing 5 alternative ways to decline requests gently but firmly.
You can watch the video or read the modified transcript below if you wish!
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I was seething when this happened many years ago.
“Okay Shikah,” my lazy colleague flopped herself comfortably on the sofa in our meeting room at my former workplace.
“You can take notes for this meeting and email them to all of us,” she continued.
I baulked.
“No thanks. I think we are capable of writing our own notes,” I retorted calmly.
Inside, I was burning with anger.
There she is again. Trying to bully me to do work for her whenever she has a chance, I thought furiously.
I said No because if I allow someone to ‘make use’ of my kindness once, it will happen again. Usually.
I am lucky I’ve learnt how to set boundaries at the right time.
And I feel deeply for people-pleasers who get into a mental tussle whenever someone asks them for a ‘favour’ they dont want to do.
I created the done for you Overcome People Pleasing masterclass for them and for you to have your own people-pleasing masterclass with the slides and script I’ve done for you.
And at the same time, help your clients feel more confident while you make money with the masterclass replays.
You make a difference and get paid for this wonderful transformation - just the way we like it :)
Anyway, I digress.
Today, I’m sharing 5 ways for your clients to say No politely.
For recovering people-pleasers, saying a flat No can feel too harsh.
So we cushion the No such that your people-pleasing audience feels less saying No to unreasonable tasks.
Here are 5 ways your people-pleasing clients can say No politely:
“Let me think about it.” If their default answer to every request is Yes, this buys them some time to think through and craft a polite No.
2. “ I have an appointment later, I cant do that for you today.” I may get shot for this, but I think telling a white lie or two is okay if your clients are in the process of recovering from people pleasing. Just say ‘I cant do that - I have plans after this’ to an undesired request, even if the only plan they have is one with Netflix and chips.
3. “I can’t do that for you as I’m busy but I can show you how to do it.” If your clients have the time and patience, they can ‘tutor’ the other person how to get that unwanted task done.
4. “I’m sorry but I can’t promise I can get this done.” This is a very polite way of saying No and hopefully the asker gets the hint and buzzes off.
5. If your client is sick and tired of this same person asking them for unnecessary favours all the time because they are lazy? A simple “No. I think you are capable of doing that yourself.”
There you have it. Five ways to say No politely.
Please share these 5 ways with your audience. In your reels, in your IG ‘lives’ or expand this into a podcast episode. Spread the word.
If you want a free people-pleasing test to let your audience find out fi they have mild or severe people-pleasing tendencies, head to the show notes or description box.
And if you want to launch your own people-pleasing masterclass but are too busy to create one yourself, you can get my done-for-you masterclass.
Thank you for the work you do, Coaches.
Thank you for the work you do, Coaches.
Sincerely,
Shikah
If you want to launch your own people-pleasing masterclass but too busy to create one yourself, you can take the shortcut and get my done-for-you people-pleasing masterclass.
