Winner’s Mindset vs an Underachiever’s Mindset
Whether we are a ‘winner’ or an ‘underachiever’ depends on our actions and the way we think.
‘Winners’ take responsibility for their actions and learn from their mistakes.
‘Underachievers’ tend to give excuses and blame others for their unhappiness.
It’s not easy to have a winner’s mindset (it’s easier to just blame others and complain).
However, don’t be so hard on ourselves – slowly start taking ownership of our actions (which requires us to swallow our pride at times).
Remember – it takes time to change from an ‘underachieving’ mindset to a ‘winner’s’ mindset. 🙂
1 Technique to Feel Better (almost) Instantly
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In this video, I'll be sharing 1 technique to feel better (almost) instantly.
Our thoughts influence our feelings.
If we want to feel good, we need empowering thoughts. If we are feeling not-so-great, chances are: we are having self-defeating thoughts. Hope this video helps in some way. 🙂
4 Scientific Methods to Boost Self-Esteem for Work & School Success
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In this post, I’ll be sharing 4 scientific ways for us to boost self-esteem. We can use them on ourselves – or teach them to our children.
How is self-esteem linked to work or school?
2 Benefits of Good Self-Esteem
According to research, people with good self-esteem get career success much faster. In fact, their successful achievements are double compared to those with poor self-esteem.
When they get negative feedback from a boss, people with good self-esteem don’t take it personally. They know that they are competent individuals and don’t crumble after negative feedback.
Good self-esteem is also connected to good mental health. People with good self-esteem don’t get stressed easily. They are not bothered by a few negative comments and they don’t sweat the small stuff.
Just a side note: Teens who are easily jealous are likely to suffer from very low self esteem.
4 Scientific Tips to Boost Self-esteem.
Tip 1 is to set high expectations for ourselves. When we set high goals, we will perform at a higher level.
If you expect yourself to reach that goal, you most likely will reach it. It works for many people. So when we finally achieve that high goal, we will feel a boost of confidence.
Tip 2 is to be more optimistic. People with good self-esteem believe that bad events are temporary.
Also, they don’t shoot themselves for failures. They look for other factors which also lead to the failure.
For example, Jane bought a new drawer for her new house and it came with unclear instructions and many parts to fix together. A pessimist will think this way: ‘What a fool I am! I can’t even assemble a small drawer!’
However, Jane being one with good self-esteem, will think: ‘I’m not fixing the drawer properly. I’m going to get my friend to help me with this. The instructions are not clear anyway.’
She does not take the blame 100%, which preserves her confidence.
Tip 3 is to practise public speaking.
If we can stand in front of an audience – even in a small meeting – and make people understand our ideas, we will feel confident. This means we are watching facial expressions and speaking directly to our audience. (Not merely reading from a PowerPoint slide:) )
Making successful presentations has been a self-esteem booster for millions of students.
Tip 4 is to be resilient. This means convincing ourselves that we can conquer embarrassing events and challenges.
Successful people have made more mistakes than the average person. They can bounce back from their mistakes fast. If we crumble after every mistake, it will crush our confidence.
To summarise this post, these are the 4 scientific ways to build our self-esteem:
Set high expectations
Being optimistic
Practise public speaking
Being resilient.
Have a good start to 2018. 🙂
E + R = O
E + R = O
(Event + Response = Outcome)
What’s E + R = O ?
Let’s say a child scored low marks for his English exams. This is the ‘event’.
The child can choose to respond by changing his studying strategy or…by giving up.
His response will control the ‘outcome’.
If he chooses to change study habits, he might score higher marks in the next exam.
If he chooses to give up, chances are, his marks will dip.
We can’t change the ‘events’ in our lives, but we can control our ‘response’ to get a good ‘outcome’. 🙂
3 Tips to be More Productive Everyday for 2018
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Hi! Today I’ll be sharing 3 tips to help you or your children make your days more productive.
Being busy doesn’t mean you are being productive.
Being productive means getting high-quality work done in a short time. So how do we produce good quality work in a shorter time?
3 Tips to be Productive Everyday
Tip number 1 is focus on just 3 action steps per day.
This means taking out your organiser or your phone and typing out only 3 things to do TODAY which help you reach your ‘big goal’.
Let’s say your big goal is to finish your work in the office by 6pm everyday. Or to score a B in your Maths mid-year exam.
Write down 3 things you can do today to help you reach that.
If you do this everyday, you should be closer to getting that B or finishing your work on time like you planned.
These 3 action steps by the way, should not be about running errands, doing laundry or the daily grind. The 3 steps should bring you closer to a ‘big goal’ that you have.
Tip number 2 is know your Peak Work Time.
You’ll notice that you are super creative or hyper productive during a certain time everyday. It’s usually a 3-hour window. Maybe you are most productive from 11-2pm, 8pm-11pm or 7-10am. Everyone is different.
Do your important tasks during your peak work time. If you do this, you’ll produce high-quality work which makes you feel happy and satisfied.
So maximise your Peak Work Time and get all the important tasks done during that 3-hour window.
Your less important tasks can be done after or before that.
Tip number 3 is do your worst task first.
Get the most dreadful task done first thing in the morning.
When the most dreaded task is over and done with, you will feel a sense of achievement. This sets a good tone to your entire day.
Prepare yourself to do this ‘hated’ task the night before.
Write it down on a piece of paper, gather all the materials you need to do this dreadful task and just execute the next morning.
When you start the day finishing the most unpleasant task first, you’ll feel good and get more things done than most other people in your office or school later in the day.
So I hope these 3 tips help you or your child be more productive.
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Have a good week!