What to do when someone belittles you or your struggles (share this with your coaching clients)

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What should you do if someone belittles your struggles? 🤔

I remember seeing a married-into-wealth influencer post an Instagram post two years back. 

She shared in that post that she had been struggling to go to the gym and to keep up with her exercise routine recently.

I didn’t expect the barrage of sarcastic comments she received. 

“Wow, it must be nice that your biggest problem right now is going to the gym.”

“Such a hard day for you. People are dying out there.”

“You have a hard time? What about all the other women juggling full-time jobs, motherhood and chores?”

My eyes widened a little in surprise as I read those comments.

You may have had this experience too. You posted an everyday struggle on IGS and you get judged for it. 

I want to say that ALL our struggles are valid. 

One reason is because, all of us value different things. 

That wealthy influencer clearly values a healthy lifestyle and her health a lot.

Her critics likely do not value having a healthy lifestyle as much as she does and attacked her values, which they judged as ‘insignificant.’

This applies to you too.

One thing you can bear in mind when you get judged for having a seemingly small ‘first world problem’ is that, you value different things from the people who judge you.

This also reminds us not to judge other people’s problems. What we see as a small or trivial problem may be important to them.

In the video and podcast ep above, I shared 3 other things to bear in mind when someone belittles your struggles.

I hope this helps you in a small way.

Sincerely,

Shikah

How to stop mindless scrolling : 3 options for you

In this video and podcast ep, I want to share 3 questions you can ask yourself whenever you feel tempted to mindlessly scroll on your phone.

Part of the reason why I felt motivated to create this episode was because I watched a video by another entrepreneur where she was sharing some strategies that we can do to to stop ourselves from doomscrolling.

I have created a simple 3-question-process to help you redirect your focus once you feel the urge to scroll mindlessly.

This is what I’ll cover in this video and podcast ep :)

• Why do we do scroll mindlessly?

• How is mindless scrolling not good for us? Isn’t it just a harmless passive habit?

• My personal experience with mindless scrolling and why I want to reduce this habit.

• 3 questions I ask myself when I feel myself sitting down, taking out my hp and swiping

• What I’ve done last week to replace mindless scrolling

I hope this video and podcast episode is helpful you.

Take care,

Shikah

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I have done 80 Canva slides for you. It's brandable, so you can change any of the slides to suit your needs if you want to, or use them as they are.

I've also included a done-for-you workbook and also a done-for-you script. So all you have to do is just launch it, conduct a Zoom master class, and sell the recordings.

I hope that will help you to save time in your business.

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How to overcome shiny object syndrome in business : 4 ways

I was listening to a course from an intuition coach and she interviewed a business owner who was experiencing ‘shiny object syndrome’.

You may have a friend who is killin’ it in real estate.

Or another friend who is in an enviable safe and secure job.

Or you may know another coach who charges $400 for one hour of ‘chatting’ with her (true story!) and you may feel a bit of FOMO and be tempted to… try these endeavours.

Hold on for a sec because there are 4 things we can take note of before diving head first into a new direction.

In the above vid, I shared 4 ways for you to overcome shiny object syndrome so you don’t end up distracted and losing focus and achieving nothing at the end of the day or month.

Here is what I talked about:

✔️ How to identify if something is a true gut feeling or just empty excitement 

✔️ A little extreme way of handling this situation which may work for you

✔️ When to take action on an idea (all parts of you have to be on 100% on board)

You can watch the vid or listen to the podcast ep above.

Or read a gist of it below:

Method 1: Know your values like they are at the back of your hand

If your top value is ‘freedom’, you may want to think hard before starting a new endeavour or creating a new offer which needs you to be at a specific place at a specific time. Or an endeavour which needs you to stick to strict deadlines.

What to discover what your values are? You can download this coaching tool and use it on yourself. Or use it with your clients or park it in your blog as a lead magnet

Method 2: Live out that dream!

This is an extreme method but it works for some of us. If you have this exciting feeling about pursuing a side line as a real estate agent, for example, go all out.

Create an Instagram account for this imaginary sideline. Create a free website for it.

Research on the exams and papers you will have to take. Buy the books and read them. Literally live out that dream. If it’s not meant for you, you may lose interest in a few days.

Method 3: Know where that excitable feeling comes from

Does it come from your gut or do you feel this giddy excitement feel mostly in your head area?

If this excitement mostly centres around your head area, there is a high chance that this idea satisfies your ego and not your higher self. Which means, be careful with any idea that gives you empty, giddy excitement Wait it out and see if it fizzes out after a few days.

Method 4: Only jump into an endeavour if you are 100% on board with it

Even if a small part of you is unsure, sort it out until all parts of you are on board with this idea. If not, this small part of you will drag you down, slow down your progress, make you second guess yourself and give you emotional stress.

If you want to run a masterclass about setting aligned goals, you may like this done-for-you masterclass which is ready for you to launch.

I hope this blog post, video and podcast ep will be helpful for you.

See you in my next blog post ;)

Shikah

How to be Productive and Self-loving at the same time : 5 productivity tips for coaches

I felt drawn to create this episode after seeing too many of us glorify productivity whilst chucking our mental and emotional health aside.

I'm sharing 5 productivity tips for coaches and entrepreneurs which allow you to achieve your business goals with minimal burnout.

Across this episode, I offer tips and strategies to help you maintain your productivity without compromising your well-being.

Below is a summary of the strategies I shared in the podcast episode and Youtube video.

#Self-loving Productivity Tip 1 : Know your ‘Peak Work Time’:

Understanding your peak work time is crucial for optimizing productivity without burning out. It starts with recognising the period of the day when you are most creative and motivated. This can stretch between 3 to 4 hours and varies from person to person. When you identify this peak time, you can schedule intense, mental-draining tasks during this period. Leveraging your most productive hours for demanding activities such as strategizing, writing, or creating content can boost your productivity alot.

#Self-loving Productivity Tip 2 : Leverage on Your Strengths and Interests

Another tip that I can share with you to be productive without burning out is to leverage on your strengths and your interests. If you see a vlogger or a business or a coach or another business person vlogging twice a week or releasing podcast episodes every day or, I don't know, creating reels every day, there's a very high chance that they enjoy doing these things.

They may enjoy being on video. They enjoy speaking in a speaking into a mic. They enjoy writing, and they leverage on their interests and their strengths to be productive. So naturally, if you are someone who is good with writing, you're going to take maybe 15 minutes to craft a script for your podcast episode. Whereas someone who is not a natural at writing or who does not enjoy writing, may take about 3 hours to craft a single podcast episode. Be aware of your strengths and your interest and and, outsource the rest.

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#Self-loving Productivity Tip 3: Plan Your Days in 24 hours in advance:

Another tip I want to share with you is to plan your days at least 24 hours beforehand. You may realize that planning and strategising take much of your mental energy.

So if you plan your days at least 24 hours beforehand, all you need to do today is just execute. And that makes you incredibly productive. You're not wasting hours and your mental energy and mental capacity planning what to do. You're just executing today. You've done all the planning and all that mental work yesterday.

So that is one way for you to be incredibly productive. And when you plan, you need to be really specific. For example, if you want to batch-write 3 emails to your subscribers today, yesterday, you should be writing in very specific detail what you're going to write in each and every email so that today you are just executing. Merely writing and scheduling them out. So that is how we can be productive, which is to be is to plan ahead with as much specific details as possible.

#Self-loving Productivity Tip 4: Follow Your Natural Rhythm and Intuition:

This concept introduces the idea of following your natural rhythm and intuition for the day. It involves tuning into your inner guidance to determine your daily priorities and tasks. This method requires a deep sense of trust and self-awareness. I have elaborated on this a little more in the video version of this blog post.

#Self-loving Productivity Tip 5: Let go of perfectionism

The next step that I want to share with you is to let go of your perfectionism because perfectionism slows us down, and it definitely affects our productivity.

If you're a perfectionist, there's a very high chance that you prefer to do all sorts of research before you start doing something new. But the thing is we are always learning, and we are always works in progress.

The thing about letting go of perfectionism is to be okay that you're doing your best with what you have at this point of time and to trust that the work you produce is going to be very helpful to your clients and customers at this point of time. And it's good to bear in mind that making mistakes is how we learn. There is no way for us to create the perfect book or the perfect course or the perfect offer or the perfect program.

Over time, we will always be tweaking our products and services. We will always be tweaking and making them better. So as we make mistakes, it's how we learn, and it's also good for us to remember that the most successful people in this world make more mistakes than we do.

If you want a done-for-you productivity master class which you can release to your clients, audience and customers, you can head here.

You can edit the slides, edit the workbook, and also edit the transcript to suit your audience, or you can use the done-for-you masterclass as it is. It's ready to go - you can immediately launch that master class right now and sell the replays, or you can add your own voice to it to it.

You can add your own slides, add a few slides of your own and add an extra lesson or add an extra worksheet if you want. It's editable with Canva.

Take care and may you have a productive and meaningful day today.

Shikah

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The 3 thought patterns that can crush your clients' creativity

It all started with a post on Facebook.

"I don't want to spend $30/month to have my own website because I can't guarantee a new website will work for my new business," I saw someone post in a business-y Facebook group.

"But...but..." my mind wanted to retort her.

Her business, her rules of course.

My counselling-trained mind instantly noticed this thought pattern : the need to be certain before taking a small risk.

This pattern can destroy creativity and excitement in one shot.

In fact, almost nothing in life and in business is absolutely certain.

It is actually healthy to take calculated risks in business because we may discover a new strategy or two that can help us grow.

Doing the same things will yield the same results for us.

✨Let's unpack the 3 common thought patterns which can destroy your clients' creativity (and ours as well).

1. The need to be certain before taking a healthy risk

2. "I can't fail because it will hurt my ego and my image."

3. "I must always stick to the tried-and-tested way of doing things."

For thought pattern #1, you can help your clients shift it to : "Nothing is 100% certain in life and business. If I don't try a new strategy, my business is not going to grow."

For thought pattern #2, you can help your clients shift it to : "My self-worth does not depend on my business or career success. My 'failure' can be a learning lesson or a story I tell others."

For thought pattern #3, you can suggest your clients this approach : "I can try a new method and see how my clients or customers receive it. What if this new method works even better than my current method?"

Being creative can build resilience.

Taking chances and thinking out-of-the-box means that we have to be ready to welcome unexpected successes and 'failures'.

Most people think they need to be mentally and emotionally strong to be resilient. Well, taking creative actions can also help you build that resilience and strength.

If you have other ideas on how to build resilience in yourself or in your clients, you can share them with me in the Comments section.

Thank you for being in my world.

Till next time,

Shikah

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