How to coach Clients to set Healthy Boundaries + PDF Worksheet for ‘Healthy Boundaries’ Mindset Shift
Want to help your clients & followers with boundary issues? If you are stuck on that aspect, I’ve created a free setting healthy boundaries worksheet which you can use with your clients (download below!). They will experience a mindset shift which will help them see the benefits of setting healthy, self-caring boundaries.
Why do we need Healthy Boundaries?
Everyone can benefit from setting healthy boundaries. However, the reason your client needs to set healthy boundaries is going to be different from person to person.
For example, do they find themselves over-committing to things because they can’t say ‘no’ to?
Or is it something along the lines of allowing people to affect their mental health?
Not setting healthy boundaries can cause stress, resentment, unfulfilled goals, frustration…the list goes on.
Talk to your client about what EXACTLY they will gain from setting healthy boundaries.
If you are stuck with helping your clients pinpoint the BENEFITS of setting healthy boundaries, you can use my free mindset tool to help them set healthy, self-caring boundaries (below):
Once your client can see why they need to set healthy boundaries (and the benefits they will get from setting them!) they will feel motivated with actually setting those boundaries.
If you need a brandable Set Healthy Boundaries Guide to send to your clients or sell in your online shop, you can get your copy here :)
Pinpoint your client’s ‘Ideal Situation’
Because “healthy boundaries” look different for everyone, you have to work through what the ideal situation would be for your client.
If the ideal situation is to be able to say ‘No’ to that colleague who is always taking advantage of your client’s nice nature, how can your client achieve that?
What boundaries (and how) does your client need to set to get to that ideal situation?
If you need inspiration on 5 ways to set healthy relationship boundaries, this blog post will help!
Also, setting healthy boundaries can encompass changing our own habits.
Maybe your client is struggling with comparing herself to others because she spends too much time on social media. She then needs to set a boundary around the use of social media.
Coach them in identifying how they want to feel (or not feel!) and how they can get there through boundary setting.
Discuss what to do to enforce Boundaries
The hardest part about setting healthy boundaries isn’t about deciding or setting the boundaries themselves.
Most people can quickly figure out what boundaries they need to set.
The hardest part for many people is dealing with the people in their lives around those ‘new’ boundaries.
(No one wants to make people they care about, feel bad or uncomfortable. Nor do they want to confront their loved ones or hurt their relationships.)
Help your clients by laying out exactly what to do, or how to handle tricky situations which will arise when new boundaries are set.
This will empower them to have the tools ready when sticky situations happen so that they can remain strong and feel confident when their boundaries are tested (which will happen over and over again until the people in your client’s life get used to her new boundaries).
Help your Client understand his or her Right for having Boundaries!
At first glance, boundaries can seem selfish especially when it comes to dealing with other people.
For people who have trouble setting boundaries, they may feel that they should just continue to allow others to act a certain way towards them.
It can take a lot of work to get to a place where your client understands their right to have boundaries. Reassurance that they have every right to set healthy boundaries (and helping them go over the benefits of boundaries) can help them re-frame their mindset.
Setting Healthy Boundaries Worksheet - download below!
If your client needs help in seeing the benefits of boundaries, you can download and use the mindset tool below:
If you want a brandable Set Healthy Boundaries Guide to send to your clients or sell in your shop, you can get one here!
I wish you all the best.
Take care,
Shikah
