Free Coaching Tool - 47 Coaching Questions to Ask Your Clients when You Feel Stuck
I’ve created a free coaching tool - 47 coaching questions to help you during your coaching sessions. Feel confident in front of your clients & prospects by asking the right questions!
I will be sharing a powerful coaching tool with you: 47 coaching questions to help you feel confident in front of your coaching clients.
I remember the first time I saw my first counsellee in 2011.
I was so nervous that I prepared a sheet of paper with about 30 coaching questions so that I won’t be stuck or lost!
If you are a new coach, I understand the jitters.
That is why I have prepared this list of 47 coaching questions to help you. No more fumbling around, saying “umm..”, feeling panicked because you don’t know what to reply and so on.
You can download this coaching tool below:
You will feel confident facing your clients which means your clients will have confidence in you too.
The first few times seeing clients will be nerve-wrecking.
But it becomes easier and will come to you naturally as you coach more clients. Most clients are cooperative.
Practice is key!
Ok, this coaching tool sounds great. So what are these 47 powerful coaching questions?
For this coaching worksheet, I have divided the questions into 5 sections:
General coaching questions
Low self-esteem coaching questions (if you need a self-love coaching tool, click here)
‘Life problems’ coaching questions
Self discovery coaching questions
Goal-setting questions
Below is a preview of the 47 coaching questions:
Of course you can choose to download this coaching tool below so it’s easier for you to use during coaching sessions.
More related coaching tools for you...
You may find the tools below helpful.
I created these tools for individuals but there is no reason you can’t use them with your clients.
If you want a brandable Self-esteem Workbook to use with your clients, you can get it here.
There are 21 ready-to-use worksheets to help your clients increase their self-esteem to pursue their goals. Just add your logo to the worksheets and they are ready to go!
Meanwhile, have a good week.
Shikah
(Video) How Not to Care What People Think and Live Freely
If you are doing something new and you are self-conscious about what people will think of you, I have 5 mindset shifts which can help you overcome that fear!
Having self-esteem means we have the courage to chase our goals and live freely.
If you are doing something for the first time (or doing something different), you may be worried about what your friends, ex-colleagues, relatives will say about you.
Don’t let this worry hold you back!
Watch my latest YouTube video where I’ll be sharing 5 mindset shifts you can adopt to live more freely.
(Free Printable) How Not to Care What Other People Think and Live Your Purpose
Caring too much about what other people think will stop us from living our purpose. I’m sharing 5 mindset shifts for you to not care what other people think and finally chase your goals.
Caring what other people think will prevent us from living our desired life or ‘our purpose’.
Caring too much about offending someone, being the topic of gossip, “what other people will say” will hold us back.
It doesn’t benefit us to be scared of other people’s judgement.
It creates frustration. Unhappiness. Totally not worth it.
And prevents you from expressing and living your purpose in life.
If you want to find your purpose, you can key in your email address and I’ll send the ‘My Life Purpose Action Sheet’ to your inbox.
If you learn better through videos, you can choose to watch the video version of this blog entry:
If you are ready, let’s learn 5 real-life practical mindset shifts we can adopt today to not care what other people think!
1. We are not that important!
I hope I did not kill your confidence with that sentence.
What I meant is…
Other people are more worried about their own problems and self-image.
Oh, and they are more worried about how other people see them.
In fact, their dinner plans for today are more important than you or me.
So in reality, we are not occupying other people’s minds much.
That’s what I meant when I wrote ‘We are not that important.’
Which is good news because it makes us feel free to do what we want without worrying too much about what other people think!
2. People will gossip for 5 minutes max
Yes, your friends, ex-colleagues and so on will talk about you if you try something new.
For about 5 minutes, that is.
After that, they will change the topic or talk about another person or the weather.
Some people will continue talking about you for days or weeks. But they will usually stop after some time because
1) it gets boring
2) they’ve gotten used to the ‘new you’.
So yes, the beginning stages of trying something new or ‘putting yourself out there’ will be painful.
You will grow thick skin after that and will not care so much about what other people of your new projects!
3. People are kinder than you think
Our minds are programmed to focus on negativity.
But in reality, people are actually kinder than we think.
Let’s say you have created a self-help video or IG TV video for the first time and feel terrified to upload it and let your friends know. (Been there, done that!!)
You can be fighting the urge to upload it for days or months because you care about what others think of you.
If you choose to upload it after pondering, you will realise that your (genuine) friends + family will usually support you.
Some of them will even secretly admire you for having the guts to put yourself out there.
Many people are petrified of sharing their perspectives and opinions in public.
Your first video or blog entry or passion project will suck. I will promise you that. (Hehe)
But the more you practise creating, the better you get. I promise you that too.
True story:
When I first made a self-help video “How to Be More Decisive”, I fought for my iPhone with my husband for 1 hour because I simply could not click the ‘Post’ button on Facebook.
He pushed me to upload it. But I was terrified of ‘putting myself out there’ for the first time.
When I published it, I received so many supportive comments from people. (I was beyond embarrassed at that time that people I know were watching it.)
The video quality was bad, the video was shaky and I was nervous as heck (although I do think the content was useful. Haha).
I’ve not created many videos since then because I prefer writing.
My point is, don’t worry too much about what others think because most people are nice. And are likely to support your work.
4. Not everyone on earth will like you and your message
This.
There are 7.7 billion people on earth. You can’t make every one of them like you.
Your message or perspective may not resonate with some people.
Some people won’t like how you speak.
Some will not like how you look.
And that is fine.
That’s why there are so many life coaches out there, for example. I may not resonate with Coach A but I may like Coach B.
You will not be everyone’s cup of tea.
I know that I have friends who don’t resonate with my views on self-love and self-worth.
But it’s okay to me because self-love and personal development are not for everyone!
5. How to find your purpose
Your purpose does not fall far from your joy.
’Purpose’ does not always mean saving the world.
Some of us have a purpose like that, whereas some of us have a different purpose.
If you want to find your life’s purpose, I have created an action sheet with 3 questions to help you discover it.
Some of us are destined to be caregivers in our family (such as happy stay-at-home-mums, happy elderly caregivers or people who work joyfully in the caregiving industry).
Whether we have a larger-than-life purpose or a ‘smaller’ one, it does not matter.
Because we all need each other to thrive.
Caring too much about what others think will chain us from living our purpose.
If finding your purpose is something you are working on, answer the 3 questions in the ‘My Life Purpose Action Sheet’ and you will be 1 step closer to finding it!
Have a good week.
Shikah
These 5 Self Belief Habits will Boost Your Confidence
I’m sharing 5 everyday habits (I have personally observed and experienced) to help you believe in yourself and be more confident in going after your goals!
By right, believing in ourselves shouldn’t be hard.
It’s just a matter of having the confidence to go after what we want.
But life is not so straightforward sometimes.
If you find it hard to believe in yourself, these are 5 self belief habits to kickstart your journey to be a more confident You.
1.Don’t listen to others (too much)
I know this is controversial, but people tend to give too many opinions sometimes. If you ask 10 people about their opinions on your plans, you will get 10 opinions.
Whose opinion(s) are we going to listen to?
It’s good to keep our projects and goals a secret at times to boost our confidence levels.
It is to prevent some people from projecting their negative beliefs on our plans.
Even if you have the best plans in the world, the most negative person can still pick holes at them and criticise.
If you wish to get feedback, choose a level-headed friend or a mentor (or coach) who has already achieved what you wanted.
You can also research for someone who has succeeded doing what you want to do, and model after him or her.
2. Spend time with people who recognise your talents
Join Facebook groups, follow Instagram personalities and watch Youtube videos from people who share the same values as you.
And please spend time with people who recognise your excellence! This will boost your confidence a hundred fold.
I’ll give you an example: Your talent in motivating people will be more appreciated in a group of self help enthusiasts than in a group of pessimists.
So choose the people you spend time with, wisely. (I beg you!)
3. Create a ‘Success Log’ for yourself
We can create a Success Log to increase our confidence instantly.
A Success Log keeps track of all achievements you are proud of.
Nothing boosts your confidence like recalling and writing your past successes.
Our minds focus too much on our mistakes, failures and negativity.
So let’s do the opposite and retrain our minds to focus on our success instead!
You can learn how to create your own Success Log here.
4. Put yourself ‘out there’ and see what happens
Putting yourself ‘out there’ is terrifying.
Please only ‘put yourself out there’ in activities which you genuinely want to do.
Create those Youtube videos which you’ve wanted to do for a long time. Do an IG ‘live’ video. Record a Facebook ‘live’ video or even post your picture on your blog.
Don’t create a video just for the sake of getting over your fear of videos.
If you are scared about something but there’s a fire burning inside you to do it, go do it.
But…
if you feel scared about something and you have no desire whatsoever to do that thing, don’t do it. (Promise?)
Go put yourself ‘out there’ and see what happens!
Nothing boosts confidence (and gives you thick skin) like putting yourself ‘out there’.
5. Know what you like and be unapologetic about it
This sounds obvious - but be aware of what you like and what you don’t!
Most importantly…be unapologetic (but polite) about it.
If you like exercising 30 minutes a day even though you are slim by society’s standards, don’t be shy to admit so.
Some people will make comments (sometimes out of curiosity) such as: “But you are already slim! What are you working out so hard for?”
You don’t have to explain your life choices to everyone.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation :)
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If you need to boost your self confidence fast, I can send you a copy of my ever popular Raise Self Esteem Now worksheet to help you out!
Have a good week.
Shikah