21 Journal Prompts to Build Your Self Worth Instantly
You will get 21 journal prompts to boost your self esteem in this blog post. These journal prompts are to do be done everyday for 21 days. You will have higher self esteem and self worth at the end of 21 days!
I will be sharing 21 self worth journal prompts to help you feel worthy of all the wonderful things life has to offer.
The meaning of ‘self worth’ in simple terms
Many have asked me whether self esteem and self worth are the same things.
Self-worth is how much you value yourself without your looks, your job, your achievements.
Self-esteem is how you think and feel about yourself and this is usually linked to your achievements, contributions and your work.
I would think that having a strong self worth is priceless. Should you be fired from your job or lose your abilities, will you still think of yourself as worthy? Or useless?
If you are curious to know whether you have low or high self esteem, you can take a reliable and easy test here.
Why these self worth journal prompts work
These self worth journal prompts force you to come up with answers to questions you avoid.
We avoid certain self worth questions because we don’t feel comfortable admitting that we have good qualities.
Sounds ironic? But some of us suffer from self worth wounds which are that deep.
If you can’t accept that you are made of wonderful qualities, ask yourself: “What is wrong with admitting that we are caring, loyal, generous, understanding, (insert other good characteristics you have) etc?”
Maybe you are afraid of people seeing you as boastful. Or as a show-off or an overconfident prick.
Or perhaps you are afraid of being wrong. What if you think you are ‘caring’ but other people don’t agree? That is horrifying.
My advice is: Everyone has their own opinions about you. Some people think you are arrogant when in fact you are shy.
Some may think you are lazy when in reality, you are highly anxious about taking action towards something.
So go on and toot your own horn. Accept that you have many, many good qualities within you. (And so do most other people. It’s nothing to be shy about.)
How to do self worth journalling prompts and boost self esteem the right way
If you are a beginner to journalling, you may find this how-to video helpful!
21 days of self worth journal prompts to boost your self esteem and self worth
Spend 5-10 minutes per question per day. The longer you allocate for these prompts, the better your answers will be.
Day 1: If your confidence increases by 20%, how would your life be different?
Day 2: If you have no fear, what will you be doing today?
Day 3: Who are 3 fearless women whom you admire? (They can be celebrities or people you know)
Day 4:If you do not care what people think, what will you be doing today?
Day 5: What can you do not to care about what other people think of you?
Day 6: What qualities do you have which you admire in other people?
Day 7: What are 3 talents or skills you have which you are proud of?
Day 8: What are 3 of your proudest achievements? (You can create your own success log here)
Day 9: Who are 3 people whose lives will be greatly affected if you are not around?
Day 10: If you visualise yourself as the woman you aspire to be, how would you act or dress differently today?
Day 11: What is one thing you are fearful of, but want to overcome?
Day 12: Name one thing you are envious about in another woman. (I’m referring to healthy envy, not jealousy!) What can you do to get there?
Day 13: I challenge you to ‘love what is’ today. This means loving your less than perfect apartment, appreciating not having a job at the moment, loving the fact that you have no plans today etc. Just love today the way it is. How does it make you feel?
Day 14: What is one thing you want badly in your life? What can you do to get that thing?
Day 15: What skills or talents do you have which people will pay for? Who are the people who have made money this way? How do they get successful doing this?
Day 16: List 10 activities which always put you in a good mood. Who are the people involved?
Day 17: What do you think is your bigger purpose in life? What can you do effortlessly which makes people feel good or make the world a better place?
Day 18: What do people compliment you about? If you can’t think of anything, ask trusted people what they think are your good qualities.
Day 19: Take a piece of paper and write your good qualities on it in full sentences. Give yourself 5 minutes for this exercise.
Day 20: Write a letter to a younger version of yourself (10 years younger). What are the good things which have happened over the years? How have your life and self esteem improved? What advice would you give your 10-years-younger self? (You get the idea)
Day 21: What are 3 of your ‘weaknesses’? How can your ‘weaknesses’ be useful or be seen as strengths? (You can also do this thoughts exercise to re-frame negative thoughts to become more positive thoughts).
Ready to start these self worth journal prompts?
Remember to allocate 5-10 minutes for each of these prompts every day.
Write continuously for 21 days - don’t skip days or you will be tempted to skip more days in between!
Self worth journal prompts can make you feel worthy over time. If you do a prompt everyday, you will get somewhere at the end of the 21 days.
You may be interested in my Self Esteem Journal which is packed with 21self-esteem exercises to build a confident mindset.
Have a good week!
Shikah
Failure Motivation: How to go from Shameful to Feeling Empowered
I’ll be sharing some mindset shifts + a Stay Positive Worksheet to help you feel empowered after failing or making mistakes. Be prepared for some failure motivation!
I’ll be sharing some mindset shifts you can adopt so you can feel motivated when you have ‘failed .’
You can download the Stay Positive worksheet below to help you get perspective (and feel empowered) when things go belly up.
Let’s get started!
I’ve failed miserably. Now what?
If you are a perfectionist, failing is like death. It’s embarrassing, mortifying and stomach-churningly shameful.
I’m not sure how you define failure.
Perhaps you did not achieve a goal you announced publicly. Maybe you started something and nobody showed up (ouch). Maybe you flopped badly during a presentation in front of your colleagues.
If we don’t make mistakes in life, we don’t learn.
‘Failures’ and mistakes mean we took a risk against our inner critic. Don’t let yourself be defined by your mistakes.
Besides, failures and mistakes are just ‘feedback’ that our strategies are not working.
If you want to feel calmer and less mortified about your mistakes, you can download the Stay Positive worksheet below.
You list down 3 valuable points your ‘failure’ has taught you. It sounds simple, but feels empowering if done right!
But everyone else thinks I’m a failure! How do I handle that?
Maybe you have accepted your mistake and moved on.
But you feel as though other people are still talking about you and your ‘mistake’.
My questions are...
Are people really talking about you? How long are they going to gossip and think about you? (clue: not very long)
Do some of them actually secretly admire your guts?
People are usually kind. They may even be sympathetic towards your ‘failure’.
Your life is your journey. Everybody’s journey is different. Some people can stick to a job for 20 years (good for them).
Some of us like to switch jobs and try new things. Some of us don’t like the 9-5. Some of us like doing volunteer work over working.
Some of us like to go out of our comfort zones and do things other people call ‘risky’ or a ‘waste of time.’
Successful people make more mistakes than the average person. Remember that.
Hence, it is okay to explore new things (and flop along the way).
Why did I fail?
Maybe you were not committed enough. If it makes sense, give yourself 3 years of commitment for any venture or job before calling it quits.
Maybe you were not 100% into the project. Some part of your psyche does not want you to succeed. “Because if I’m a success, I will have a new set of friends and lose my current friends.” So you hold yourself back to keep your relationships. Self sabotage, anyone?
My last words on ‘failure’…
If you want to stop feeling shameful whenever you make mistakes, you can download the Stay Positive worksheet.
It helps you gain perspective and feel more relaxed about your ‘failures’.
The more mistakes we make, the more we will learn.
Meanwhile, have a good week!
Shikah
How to be Assertive when Communicating and Voice Your Opinions Confidently
I’m sharing 5 habits of assertive communication for introverts with self-worth issues! To help you voice your opinions confidently without fear.
These are 5 habits for assertive communication for introverts with self-esteem issues.
Some of us shy away from communicating ‘assertively’.
If we are not confident enough, we get nervous voicing our opinions.
Then again…what we are we nervous about?
Most likely afraid of losing friendships, getting into arguments and people thinking our viewpoint is stupid.
(Especially when we surround ourselves with domineering personalities who always think they are right and have no qualms putting down other people’s smart opinions. Ugh.)
If you want a shortcut to raising your self-esteem, I have 14 activities you can try out. You can download the list below.
By the way, if you want something actionable and love yoga, you might find this Throat Chakra Yoga helpful in helping you (in a more new-age sense).
So what are the 5 habits of assertive communication?
Habit 1: Know that your opinions are worthy
Your opinions are as valid as anyone else’s.
It does not matter if you do not have a high-ranking position at work or if you are still young.
Your opinions should still be respected.
Besides, if you are around people with classy behaviour, they will usually respect your opinions, even if they don’t agree with it.
(And that’s ok. There are 7.7 billion people on this planet - not everyone is going to agree with us!)
So communicate assertively all you want.
If you are around non-classy people…well, they will scorn your opinions and then make fun of you behind your back. You know who they are. Time to stop hanging out with them.
I should also point out that there is a difference between communicating assertively and being aggressive.
If you are assertive, it means that you hold strongly to your opinions BUT you still respect other people’s different points of view.
And no, we do not put down another person’s opinion or insist that our opinion is ‘the right one’.
Don’t be that girl.
Habit #2: Use words such as ‘we’ and ‘I’
If you have some self-confidence issues, you will feel better using ‘we’ and ‘I’ when you are not happy with something.
For example: “I think we can work on this to make it better”, “Let’s improve on this. We can…” or “The steak is not done the way I ordered it…can I have a replacement please?”
Also add ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ when necessary.
And use a question to get someone to do something for you. (“Can you help me to XYZ please? Thanks very much!”)
I have to add that some people are nasty by nature and will step all over you when you are cordial.
That is when you can 1) not reply the person 2) be less cordial (“Thanks for your input. I want this and this to be done. Thank you!”).
I would personally choose not to reply if someone is being nasty to me. Don’t feed the negativity. Your mental health and peace is more important.
Habit #3: Assume positive intent
When we are angry, sometimes we jump immediately to assuming the worst in people.
This is especially true for some of us who have lower self-esteem.
”He purposely ignored my message didn’t he?”
“He is definitely ignoring what I want and doesn’t care about my needs.”
When we are angry and want to voice out our frustration, it’s good to be factual.
For example:
”I don’t like waiting for 30 minutes. It was tiring for me.”
“I was waiting for your reply last night.”
As always, avoid using ‘you’. Use lots of ‘I’ and ‘we’.
(Note that my tactics are for women who are introverted with some self-worth issues.
If you are a passionate woman brimming with confidence, you may be impatient with these tactics)
Also, assume that the other person has no ill intention. (Difficult, I know)
I would say that 90% of the time, people don’t have ill intentions.
They genuinely forgot something. They are truly busy and occupied. They are distracted by other things in their lives.
Habit #4: Embarrassment is not the end of the world
When we voice our opinions, sometimes they are not…right.
Our opinions are still valid and need to be respected. But may be factually wrong at times.
(Like correcting someone’s usage of the word ‘traction’ and then realising that our definition of that word is wrong. True story).
It’s alright to laugh at ourselves. That’s why it’s good to be open to different suggestions when being assertive.
If we are rigid…we will look even more foolish when we make mistakes,yes?
We will make mistakes. That’s a given. But embarrassment is not a big deal - people forget about it faster than we think.
Habit #5: Be comfortable saying ‘No’
Saying ‘no’ is probably very hard for you if you have self-esteem issues. But saying ‘No’ is important to respect our own boundaries.
Remember - our boundaries are as important as other people’s boundaries.
If you are not comfortable doing something for others, you can try saying ‘no’ in these 5 ways:
“Can I complete that tomorrow instead?”
“I can’t help you with that. But you can call this number for information.”
“I need the money right now, so I can’t lend you $5000. Sorry!”
“Let me think about it.” (and hopefully the person forgets about the task)
“Not right now. Maybe next time.”
The above examples are more indirect in nature.
This makes them perfect for some of us who are struggling with self-confidence.
I can’t suggest for you to be direct and say “No, I can’t do that” firmly if you are in the process of building your self-esteem. It’s good to start slow - be indirect at saying ‘no’ first.
And when our confidence builds up, we can be more direct when someone crosses our boundaries.
My last thoughts on assertive communication..
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Meanwhile, have a good week.
Shikah
These 5 Self Belief Habits will Boost Your Confidence
I’m sharing 5 everyday habits (I have personally observed and experienced) to help you believe in yourself and be more confident in going after your goals!
By right, believing in ourselves shouldn’t be hard.
It’s just a matter of having the confidence to go after what we want.
But life is not so straightforward sometimes.
If you find it hard to believe in yourself, these are 5 self belief habits to kickstart your journey to be a more confident You.
1.Don’t listen to others (too much)
I know this is controversial, but people tend to give too many opinions sometimes. If you ask 10 people about their opinions on your plans, you will get 10 opinions.
Whose opinion(s) are we going to listen to?
It’s good to keep our projects and goals a secret at times to boost our confidence levels.
It is to prevent some people from projecting their negative beliefs on our plans.
Even if you have the best plans in the world, the most negative person can still pick holes at them and criticise.
If you wish to get feedback, choose a level-headed friend or a mentor (or coach) who has already achieved what you wanted.
You can also research for someone who has succeeded doing what you want to do, and model after him or her.
2. Spend time with people who recognise your talents
Join Facebook groups, follow Instagram personalities and watch Youtube videos from people who share the same values as you.
And please spend time with people who recognise your excellence! This will boost your confidence a hundred fold.
I’ll give you an example: Your talent in motivating people will be more appreciated in a group of self help enthusiasts than in a group of pessimists.
So choose the people you spend time with, wisely. (I beg you!)
3. Create a ‘Success Log’ for yourself
We can create a Success Log to increase our confidence instantly.
A Success Log keeps track of all achievements you are proud of.
Nothing boosts your confidence like recalling and writing your past successes.
Our minds focus too much on our mistakes, failures and negativity.
So let’s do the opposite and retrain our minds to focus on our success instead!
You can learn how to create your own Success Log here.
4. Put yourself ‘out there’ and see what happens
Putting yourself ‘out there’ is terrifying.
Please only ‘put yourself out there’ in activities which you genuinely want to do.
Create those Youtube videos which you’ve wanted to do for a long time. Do an IG ‘live’ video. Record a Facebook ‘live’ video or even post your picture on your blog.
Don’t create a video just for the sake of getting over your fear of videos.
If you are scared about something but there’s a fire burning inside you to do it, go do it.
But…
if you feel scared about something and you have no desire whatsoever to do that thing, don’t do it. (Promise?)
Go put yourself ‘out there’ and see what happens!
Nothing boosts confidence (and gives you thick skin) like putting yourself ‘out there’.
5. Know what you like and be unapologetic about it
This sounds obvious - but be aware of what you like and what you don’t!
Most importantly…be unapologetic (but polite) about it.
If you like exercising 30 minutes a day even though you are slim by society’s standards, don’t be shy to admit so.
Some people will make comments (sometimes out of curiosity) such as: “But you are already slim! What are you working out so hard for?”
You don’t have to explain your life choices to everyone.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation :)
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If you need to boost your self confidence fast, I can send you a copy of my ever popular Raise Self Esteem Now worksheet to help you out!
Have a good week.
Shikah